Sunday, December 11, 2011

Marking Territories (an update)

About a month ago, I wrote a post discussing some frustrations stemming from having so many women in one household. Several people posted some really great advice. I love how you guys have helped change my perspective. This situation has also changed a bit. I no longer try to be aggressive in finding a territory. Jenny, like you suggested, I'm more comfortable to come alongside someone in their territory and praise them for it. I also try to give the situation space when I feel claustrophobic. I don't feel that I have to be in every conversation or hang-out time. This has allowed me to create a territory that I call "mental space." I don't have to share "mental-space" with others. I feel entitled to it, and it helps me know how to relate better to people when I give myself that time and space.

At the same time that I have learned these things, I have also decided to move into an apartment closer to the city, closer to my job, and more ideal for the long-term. Still, I am thankful for these lessons and who knows when I'll find myself living again with lots of women.

2 comments:

Jenny - AKA - frogmama said...

I am glad you posted an update about this! I was just wondering (today) if you would :) Happy moving and getting comfortable in your new space!

Norman & Joyce said...

Thankfully, the source of the guidance that we need the most is always available.